It seems that there are people who are always performing well and those who are not performing well. You know what the ironic thing is? The more of what you get will lead to more of what you will get!
Here’s an interesting model that I believe you may have thought of before. It typically follows that people who are in the top 10% of their game are performing excellently. They have models of excellence and therefore have a high level of focus, determination, energy… all the things about a person you’d love to see.
At the bottom 10%, these are people who perform with mediocrity – people whom you may not even want to associate with. They’re not evil people (because some evil people are driven as well), but have absolutely no interest in their own success, let alone others’ successes. These are people whom you would say “It’s possible to be successful” or “Make a million in your lifetime” and they’ll go “yeah, right. Make my day and get lost.”
With skeptics and poor performers forming the bottom rung of the entire social hierarchy, we realize that there must be people in between. People who have woken up from their previous reality to find out that there must be a lot more they can do, but just don’t know how to do it.
In other words, many people are seeking to be better. They are simply lost amid bad advice and plenty of inspiration that they end up missing out on skills they can learn and prove to themselves that work.
Modeling is as much a science that is observable and transferable as it is an art, where the execution of modeling can be subtle and unnoticed. A master of modeling is able to identify role models, find out how they think through the results they produce, and be able to transfer it for personal benefit and prove those results.
Most people are not able to understand themselves well enough, which makes AWARENESS a doorway to success. Once you have “lost your mind and come to your senses”, you’ll literally have better sensory acuity to identify these differences that are out there in the open.
Even the way someone carries himself or herself can create charisma, and is a highly observable and “model-able” skill.
More importantly, people who are highly successful also know how to handle their weakest spots with effectiveness. They are better able to grasp their moments of stress, and know exactly what they are doing when they deal with stress.
Unlike most people who deal with stress as though their clothes were set ablaze, people of excellence handle stressors with finesse. They know when they get triggered, and understand themselves well enough to take the corrective, balancing action.
When do you get triggered?
What do you normally do when you get triggered?
What alternatives do you want instead?
These three questions are very easily answered through life coaching. However, to move from this to the end result of actually behaving the way you want requires someone who has an understanding of how to wire up the new unconscious patterns in your brain, while dumping the old patterns that didn’t work before.
In other words, someone who is always angry and turns verbally abusive at the sight of incompetence can literally choose to see that same situation of incompetence and react in a compassionate manner.
It’s just a question of how you elicit, then install the strategy that is deemed excellent in a social context.
The power of transformation: That’s the magic of NLP!
