Submodalities are a classification of variables within a “modality”. Technically, NLP never acknowledges the “modalities” and “submodalities” as related classifications, but the fact is that VAKOG categories are the presupposed modalities that submodalities refer to.
As a learner of NLP, you have to be mindful that your ability to use submodalities has nothing to do with understanding the representation of a “modality” – it’s irrelevant. Focus on the elements of submodalities and explore them deeply.
Play around with analog and digital modes of shifting submodalities. As a practitioner, you might be doing this in your own mind. Yet, you also need to master it by applying these shifts of submodalities in the minds of others, and facilitate that process.
“Make the picture bigger and brighter” affects submodalities as much as “instead of looking out through your own eyes, stand far away outside if yourself so you can see yourself”. While linguistically, most proficient individuals in English will find a way to describe this precisely, new practitioner must learn how to phrase their submodality shifts appropriately.
I’ve heard many people say things like “can you make your picture brighter?” (connotes uncertainty, especially with a typical beginner’s upward inflection which takes power away from their langauge) which defeats the purpose of the submodality shift: you want to use language that is certain: “make your image brigher now”. Or, if you choose a Ericksonian style, make it hypnotic: “I wonder how differently it feels when your image gets brighter now.”
Practice by recognizing your own STATES. You’ll know it works when you calibrate to the person’s response of you.
A common issue I observe with people who are less linguistically inclined is the lack of desire to learn about language.
Is there a difference in these two paragraphs:
- The ocean was blue. You can hear the waves. It is relaxing.
- The vast and panoramic ocean is roaring with ebbing waves in the whistling comfort of the breeze, that makes you relaxed and the salty smell in the air reminds you of all the moments and times you stood comfortably by the beach.
I’m sure you will agree with me that #2 looks, sounds and feels more awesome. Remember – your words put images in people’s heads. You are going to need a wide enough vocabulary to do this. If you find yourself lacking in some of these, first, learn to be conscious of how others use their language and practice. Learn to describe and narrate scenario like a movie would. As you continue to do so, you will almost discover the power of words you have. And while they may not influence well for people less versed in this same language, you can most certainly adopt the process and apply the same kinds of evocative sensory language in the language of your choice.
You merely need to choose and commit to practice.
I’ve come to realize that many new attendees of NLP practitioner courses tend to be less self-aware and therefore will find that calibration is far less easy when attempting to do anchoring.
In some of my latest NLP lessons, I’ve also noted that it was harder to get certain people to immerse themselves in the depth of emotions. This was particularly the case for those who hold a guarded attitude toward NLP, or have a high logic preference for NLP.
The issue with anchoring is that without self-calibration, it becomes self-defeating to even try to apply anchoring. As a practitioner, you have to learn to grasp your own self-calibration by noticing how easily you can access the emotions on demand.
First, always make sure you are open to learning. Sometimes, just because things don’t work the way you are applying it doesn’t mean it doesn’t work period. Find out what made that difference. You will always find what you wish to look for.
Second, learn to get yourself into learning to amplify and lessen different states and experience emotional shifts. Applying perceptual positions can support your awareness.
Finally, learn to anchor yourself. Some interesting applications would include self stacking anchors, as a basic measure of your resourcefulness.
Recently, I had a group of new NLP Master Practitioner enrolees who had basically forgotten almost all their NLP terminology after 3 years. It was a painful process of trying to put the lessons back together again, because we were literally doing the Practitioner content over.
Do remember that the responsibility of learning rests on the learner, particularly since you are all adults — when you are experiencing a gap between a practitioner course and a master practitioner course, you have to make a deliberate effort to apply the NLP strategies and techniques to your everyday life. If not, it will be pretty much a waste of your money and time.
Remember – resitting the NLP Practitioner course is often a necessity, but that means (at least for me) a 50% resit fee.
So, this post is meant to help you save yourself from such a pain.
- Set goals for yourself. The moment you have goals, you have to galvanize resourceful states. When you do this, you will have the opportunity to apply NLP everywhere you go. Remembering that failure is feedback, you can always apply the NLP techniques alongside the belief system.
- Meditate. I coined a term called neuro-linguistic meditation. This is basically a process of applying mindful meditation and enhancing it with NLP. Every day, if you start to build somatic awareness. you will learn to calibrate to yourself and your own emotions and experiences. Of course, it helps that you are put into a fundamental state of positive states through meditation, and thereby train your brain to be more effective.
- Hold coaching conversations. Most NLP practitioners are not coaches, but you can most certainly accelerate your pathway to become a Licensed NLP Coach through my Certified Motivational Coach programme (there is no pre-requisite to attend, but to be certified as an NLP coach, you have to be a Master Practitioner). This way, you can practice the most fundamental conversations in NLP, which is to help empower people through your language, while practicing reframing too!
- Keep reading NLP! NLP does advance as time goes by. Nowadays, there are applications of NLP in almost every other field such as medicine, negotiation, sales, motivation, self-help, spiritual development and the like. Oh, and remember to get a copy of Richard Bandler’s new generation of books.
- Develop an attitude of curiosity… with other NLP Practitioners. Social learning rocks! Well, if you haven’t done so, you should join your fellow graduates in the Facebook group (ping me on Facebook to get access). When events are organized, jump in and commit to learn by experience. Don’t just give in to the inconvenience – heck, by organizing this, it can be an inconvenience when people simply raise their hands but do not show up. If you don’t commit to learning, nobody will! And remember – I’m not obliged to organize free revision sessions. I’m just doing this because I know you need some space to practice, and you should come prepared to practice, not to come for a revision lesson.
While many people choose to learn NLP due to its awesome persuasion skills, often people miss the point in being a certified NLP practitioner.
The idea behind NLP is the ability to get you to become a massive modeling machine. You learn, adapt and enhance your skill and knowledge further. Most people simply deem the NLP practitioner certificate as a qualification alone. In fact many people are touting NLP as the way to success.
While I don’t dispute it can help people with success, it has gotten sickening to see that there are people who use it like a magic silver bullet. Most of these people don’t even know what the entire system of NLP is in the first place. Hence, their methodology is skewed to one direction, causing students to be unable to use NLP beyond a narrow set of skills.
Becoming an NLP practitioner is about hunting down useful skill to improve one’s abilities and become more powerful in achieving results. But that’s half the story. You can also maximize the use of such tools to make a difference in the world.
I’ve seen highly inflexible and intolerant so-called NLP practitioners. Even at a crossroads of choices, some choose the safe path while being critical, nasty or even rude. I think the job of an NLP practitioner is to elevate the standard of flexibility in working with self first. If you can’t get yourself under control and check your own ability to open up, consider new possibilities and achieve new goals, then what’s the point of learning NLP?
Key point is this: keep within a learning group that is diverse and celebrates changes and improvements. Often, without this kind of culture, learning ceases while people think more of themselves than they really are. There is social myopia.
Expose yourself to more opportunities to manage yourself and your experiences. If this means getting yourself to do something uncomfortable, then do it. It will merely be a matter of time before it becomes the new norm and you can look back realizing you have learned and grown.
If all that NLP does is to do this, I think you would have added a lot of value to the world, starting from the people closest to you.