Nominalizations are at the heart of modeling. It was once said that in order to model people, we need to focus on the de-nominalization in language in order to move “things” into “process”. A nominalization is basically an abstract noun (empowerment, love, essence, endearment, optimism, desire, etc) which encapsulates a process. This has an uncanny effect of turning it into a ‘thing’ and causes us to treat it as if it were a thing.
For instance, people who say “we have a problem with our relationship” will end up having no apparent solution. But when we de-nominalize the term ‘relationship’ we now have a process that is called ‘relating’. Now, this is something we can observe and even learn to improve.
Whenever I interview a role model for the modeling process, I actually request for details about the nominalizations (of course I won’t say ‘denominalize this’) and I end up being clearer about the processes he or she has in her mind.
In NLP training, we use the Milton Model to create unconscious effects. It is a powerful way to create unconcious communication for the purposes of embedding commands as well as suggesting ideas that others are more likely accept simply because of the nature of the Milton Model language patterns.
A lost performative is a phrase where the originator of the statement is missing (i.e. lost performer). So whenever a statement such as “He’s such a goat you can’t communicate with him” is used, you can classify them as lost performatives. However, a statement such as “She never comes to meetings on time” is also classified as a lost performative. The statements are simply judgments without the judger.
Why Observe Lost Performatives
A lost performative indicates a belief pattern. This also provides enough “juice” to either begin the therapeutic approach, or to begin the modeling approach. If you hear a ‘problem’ statement such as “Everything is gone, we’re finished” you can engage the person from a therapeutic approach to uncover responsibility and direction.
If you hear a more empowering statement “Anybody can speak in public” you will want to expand on this and uncover the deep structure of the language to identify context, processes, and structure of experience.
The Milton Model is, in my opinion, the most important NLP element a human being can ever learn. It constitutes the ability to communicate with people at a level deeper than the conscious, and being aware of its effects.
The Milton model was developed by Bandler and Grinder after observing Milton Erickson’s language patterns. The basis of the Milton Model is the use of presuppositions in language. Instead of asking “will you meet me” you ask “what time are you meeting me”, and you’ll knowtice that the second statement is “loaded” with a certain assumption.
When I teach someone the use of the Milton Model, it really is to enhance their communicative capabilities. You then learn how NOT to use it. I love it when righting and speaking :D. But don’t use it the way some boring hypnotists do. Instead, use an effective tone of voice, conversationally weave it into your speech, and keep practicing the Milton Model until you know what they are by label and by example.
Here are some patterns:
- Lack of referential index
- Lost performative
- Cause & Effect
- Complex Equivalence
- Tag questions
- double binds
- conversational postulate
- comparative deletion
- Selectional Restriction Violation
- Unspecified verbs
- Modal Operators
There are more, but it would basically be impractical to give examples in just this one post because you might want to come back and practice your Milton Model competence on this blog itself. Again… and again… 😀