While many people choose to learn NLP due to its awesome persuasion skills, often people miss the point in being a certified NLP practitioner.
The idea behind NLP is the ability to get you to become a massive modeling machine. You learn, adapt and enhance your skill and knowledge further. Most people simply deem the NLP practitioner certificate as a qualification alone. In fact many people are touting NLP as the way to success.
While I don’t dispute it can help people with success, it has gotten sickening to see that there are people who use it like a magic silver bullet. Most of these people don’t even know what the entire system of NLP is in the first place. Hence, their methodology is skewed to one direction, causing students to be unable to use NLP beyond a narrow set of skills.
Becoming an NLP practitioner is about hunting down useful skill to improve one’s abilities and become more powerful in achieving results. But that’s half the story. You can also maximize the use of such tools to make a difference in the world.
I’ve seen highly inflexible and intolerant so-called NLP practitioners. Even at a crossroads of choices, some choose the safe path while being critical, nasty or even rude. I think the job of an NLP practitioner is to elevate the standard of flexibility in working with self first. If you can’t get yourself under control and check your own ability to open up, consider new possibilities and achieve new goals, then what’s the point of learning NLP?
Key point is this: keep within a learning group that is diverse and celebrates changes and improvements. Often, without this kind of culture, learning ceases while people think more of themselves than they really are. There is social myopia.
Expose yourself to more opportunities to manage yourself and your experiences. If this means getting yourself to do something uncomfortable, then do it. It will merely be a matter of time before it becomes the new norm and you can look back realizing you have learned and grown.
If all that NLP does is to do this, I think you would have added a lot of value to the world, starting from the people closest to you.
Most people make the mistake of thinking that NLP is about influence, when it really is a personal development instrument. Because of its value in personal development, a serious student of NLP in training has to consider three things in their journey to be trained in NLP.
#1 – What New Skill Should I Learn?
This is a fundamental question. All NLP Practitioners should know about basic modeling and understand the implications of modeling on any aspect of personal development such as learning, communicating, leadership and the like.
#2 – What New Beliefs Should I Adopt?
I remember after learning about NLP, I focused a lot of energy on the subject of learning, so that I could learn faster. Then I discovered I had a deficiency in terms of the kind of beliefs I had about leadership and public speaking. I set out to do more of that by changing my old, limiting beliefs about leadership and public speaking, hence allowing me to use NLP to expand my skill and expertise in that area.
#3 – What Results Will I Achieve?
This really is a question about your outcome. If you so choose, you should actually achieve anything you want. However, most people are unaware that many goals that are set according the “SMART” goals formula does not work in accordance to empirical evidence. It is important to utilize NLP as a means to be clear about and to achieve goals. Results, after all, are more important as proof of performance than just feeling good about something.
It’s common for people during a recession to end up feeling hopeless and fearful of the uncertain future. In a situation like this, all you really need to do is to begin this simple process of evaluation and goal setting.
- Were you fired because you were overpaid? If so, it might be because you’ve not been able to add value to the organization relative to what you were being paid. It may also mean you have reached an income scale that doesn’t make sense for an organization to keep you. You might need to start out on your own, if you dare.
- What kinds of useful skills do you have? Make a list of the skills you have developed. Would anyone hire you to use your skills? Can you confidently say you have a valuable set of skills that the market will value? If not, you really have to start over by developing a new set of skills. NLP can help you develop those skills faster through the process of modeling.
- How are your life skills relative to your work skills? If you have great work skills but have never developed your life skills, it’s even more imperative for you to make plans for this.
Now, start building your plan.
- Create a vision for your future. What is your intended lifestyle? How do you want to live your life? Put yourself there.
- What resources do you need? Resources such as your skills, the appropriate emotional state, the skills that prevent your weaknesses from overwhelming you, etc.
- When are you going to develop or model those resources? You need to set a time frame for you to build those resources. Write these down and visualize yourself after these have been developed. How different will your behaviors be? How different your results?
- Who are your role models? Of course if you are going to model these skills, assuming you already have the modeling technology at your fingertips, you need to know who you are going to learn from! You will need to be able to observe them and learn from them, engage them in conversations. They may have to be formal coaching relationships to be effective in many instances (i.e. get ready to pay your way to develop the skills). Or else, you could develop accelerated learning skills and read widely to developed the expertise.