Learn NLP – To Give 100% Or To Hold Back?

One thing in NLP is that the focus on the attitude of success is hardly mentioned. People keep focusing on the techniques and the method, and I think that’s a little passe.

One principle I share in the success process is about giving 100%.

A number of people have asked me about giving 100% and what that really means. While this is not strictly an NLP strategy, I think the attitude of being at your 100% is very important. Personally, I find that it is a very useful concept. But, is it possible to give 100% all the time?


When you set your goals, do you think that it is an important thing to put in 100% to achieve your goals?

Even if you have the best skills and techniques, you may not necessarily achieve your goals simply because you did not put in your best. If you want something, you may want to put limitations aside.

Of course, if you are in an environment, you may also find that you are restricted by culture, the way people do things. When you are in conflict as to whether you should put in your best, you have to ask yourself the question: what will be beneficial overall?

Have you realized that some of the top performers actually defy the norms in order to push themselves to the highest possible level of performance? Perhaps, holding back is not really an option anymore!

Consider, though, that it’s no longer about what you do, but rather how you communicate your intent. It’s probably the best, therefore, if you wish to get yourself to stretch or even get other people to stretch, that your intent is clearly communicated so that you and the stakeholders of your decisions are clear about your intent first.

Learn NLP: Character Instead Of Cash

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Do you desire financial freedom and fame?  If you do, I have news for you.  NLP can help you model after those successes!  However, you might have a lot of catching up the, not just in financial success, but also in terms of knowing where you are where you ought to go. If you’re one of those people who have great financial success, but are complete jerks, don’t read this. I have people whom I care about whom I want to succeed, not you.

So guys… you want success. Yet, some people have great financial success but are these blamers, whiners and complainers. They are rich in cash, but poor in character. Somehow, these morons seem to get away with it, don’t they? It seems somewhat unfair, that they have it and you don’t.

If you are hardworking, honest, and have a sense of responsibility in the things that you do, all it takes is a little fire and passion and drive you toward greater success. I think these are the things that are necessary for you to forge ahead and build any kind of success that you want. But you must be willing to take the hits.

The worst thing that can happen for you is that you ONLY take credit for everything that goes right, and fail to improve from the things that don’t go right. Take responsibility. When I mean responsibility, I’m really talking about the ability to take charge of one’s own decisions, instead of blaming someone else and making excuses. If you don’t achieve something, for heaven’s sake don’t blame anyone else for it.

You need to learn this. Responsibility is one of the most important key facets in NLP. I found that accepting responsibility actually a allows you to develop a greater sense of learning through feedback.

So, if you’re not wealthy yet, take responsibility!

If you don’t have a great family yet, take responsiblity!

If people don’t like you yet, take responsibility!

If you were made bankrupt…(the list goes on, by the way)

Learn something from it.

Once you take a look inside yourself instead of outside of yourself and looking for something to blame, you’ll find that there’s a lot more that you can do to grow as a human being. You become more fulfilled, and experience a greater sense of lightness so that things get better in all aspects of your life.

The basic strategy for taking responsibility is to observe all comments, a visual stimulus, or any other form of sensory feedback and process that by asking the question: “what could I do to improve this?”

The moment you ask this question, it presumes that you already have a clear enough outcome. For most people, the outcome is unclear. You definitely want to have some clarity of your outcomes in order to know how to exactly improve. Once you’re there, you can activate resources that lead you to where it is that you need to go.

I certainly hope that you focus on character instead of cash, wisdom instead of fame, integrity instead of blame.  I know that once you’re there, it will definitely help you to make yourself as cash rich and famous as you choose to be. 

Affirmations: How do they affect you?

I suppose you might have heard of the “Law Of Attraction” and stuff like that. My opinion? It basically boils back down to your thinking… which reminds me of the power of affirmation.

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An affirmation, in my view from NLP, is an internal sound. Depending on the emotional state that it generates, the internal experience of an inner sound (test this out – say something like ‘yay!’ as if you said it out loud in a room, but keep that silent in your mind, sending the sensation all through your body). If you said it right, you might probably feel lots of tingling sensations in your body. It’s like a time you wanted to shout out in joy, but you were not allowed to make loud noises.

In contrast, a negative thought sends similar ripples of feelings through your body. What this can do is reduce energy and build up tension in the body (which may be the reason for lots of muscular tension, headaches and the like), possibly leading up to disease and illness.

A lot of people simply use affirmations for the purposes of ‘positive thinking’. Well, if you want to benefit from affirmations, you have to deeply believe in the affirmation itself. In addition, since NLP allows you to control the effect of intensity in your submodalities, you should be able to increase the sensation associated with the submodalities. For instance, how about using your affirmations in a tone of voice that makes you feel really good? Perhaps you could even bring the image closer and make it a little brighter if that helps to amplify the feeling you have.

Affirmations in their original form are just statements. You simply “say” it (I’m feeling positive and full of energy). But if you said it in a strong place of belief, the effect is extremely different.

It’s also quite common for people to ignore the use of affirmations when they have a bad day. To me, it’s merely an indication that you haven’t readily ‘immunized’ yourself from negative experiences. In other words, the external triggers in your environment are still firing negative associations. You will need to learn how to use some strategies to get rid of that negative association, so that whenever you experience something negative, you could continue to affirm yourself and speak in a way that helps energize you rather than weaken you.

NLP Techniques: Belief Change Technique

One of the things about being effective in belief change is the way you interject and weaken undesired mental images and strengthen desired images in people’s minds.

For instance, someone may have a very firm belief (maybe even paranoia) that someone is plotting against them in the office (lol — well who isn’t). In this case, you can basically do a number of things to weaken those mental images.

One way is to use a simple pattern interrupt. If you are adept enough, you can weave this in smoothly without causing a serious break in rapport. Another way that is common is to offer counter examples within your conversation itself. The targeted undesired belief can then be diminished greatly.

Of course, don’t just stop there! You’ll want to suggest possible new beliefs to have! This is where your ability to use submodalities will come in handy. Make sure you build images in your mind and intensify them powerfully. All it takes is for you to calibrate and observe physiological cues in the client.

Once you’ve gotten the desired belief intensified, walk through a future pace so that the behaviors congruent with the belief will be reinforced.

This is just one method for changing beliefs. After all, many psychological elements can control our beliefs. Happy experimenting!

Learn NLP Patterns: The Matrix And Your Beliefs

Could it be that you have been living in a dream world?

NLP really opened up my own understanding of my own beliefs. It was necessary for me to consider the new possibilities. It’s the basis of my question: “What if everyone you met thought you were insane – but you believed you were not”. 🙂

A lot of us play our habits in ourhead, turning our reality into our own “matrix” that keeps us stuck where we are. Some people call it the “comfort zone”. Imagine a world where you have basically been locked out of the reality you should have been in – to make you feel at ease, but you were simply living a lie. Wouldn’t you want to break out of it?