A common issue I observe with people who are less linguistically inclined is the lack of desire to learn about language.
Is there a difference in these two paragraphs:
- The ocean was blue. You can hear the waves. It is relaxing.
- The vast and panoramic ocean is roaring with ebbing waves in the whistling comfort of the breeze, that makes you relaxed and the salty smell in the air reminds you of all the moments and times you stood comfortably by the beach.
I’m sure you will agree with me that #2 looks, sounds and feels more awesome. Remember – your words put images in people’s heads. You are going to need a wide enough vocabulary to do this. If you find yourself lacking in some of these, first, learn to be conscious of how others use their language and practice. Learn to describe and narrate scenario like a movie would. As you continue to do so, you will almost discover the power of words you have. And while they may not influence well for people less versed in this same language, you can most certainly adopt the process and apply the same kinds of evocative sensory language in the language of your choice.
You merely need to choose and commit to practice.
I’ve come to realize that many new attendees of NLP practitioner courses tend to be less self-aware and therefore will find that calibration is far less easy when attempting to do anchoring.
In some of my latest NLP lessons, I’ve also noted that it was harder to get certain people to immerse themselves in the depth of emotions. This was particularly the case for those who hold a guarded attitude toward NLP, or have a high logic preference for NLP.
The issue with anchoring is that without self-calibration, it becomes self-defeating to even try to apply anchoring. As a practitioner, you have to learn to grasp your own self-calibration by noticing how easily you can access the emotions on demand.
First, always make sure you are open to learning. Sometimes, just because things don’t work the way you are applying it doesn’t mean it doesn’t work period. Find out what made that difference. You will always find what you wish to look for.
Second, learn to get yourself into learning to amplify and lessen different states and experience emotional shifts. Applying perceptual positions can support your awareness.
Finally, learn to anchor yourself. Some interesting applications would include self stacking anchors, as a basic measure of your resourcefulness.
Ericksonian hypnosis is a style of hypnosis developed by Milton H. Erickson that is detailed in many books. It is the de facto standard of hypnotic language used in NLP, based on the book written by Bandler and Grinder, The Patterns of Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson, M.D., Vol. 1.
Recently, I had a group of new NLP Master Practitioner enrolees who had basically forgotten almost all their NLP terminology after 3 years. It was a painful process of trying to put the lessons back together again, because we were literally doing the Practitioner content over.
Do remember that the responsibility of learning rests on the learner, particularly since you are all adults — when you are experiencing a gap between a practitioner course and a master practitioner course, you have to make a deliberate effort to apply the NLP strategies and techniques to your everyday life. If not, it will be pretty much a waste of your money and time.
Remember – resitting the NLP Practitioner course is often a necessity, but that means (at least for me) a 50% resit fee.
So, this post is meant to help you save yourself from such a pain.
- Set goals for yourself. The moment you have goals, you have to galvanize resourceful states. When you do this, you will have the opportunity to apply NLP everywhere you go. Remembering that failure is feedback, you can always apply the NLP techniques alongside the belief system.
- Meditate. I coined a term called neuro-linguistic meditation. This is basically a process of applying mindful meditation and enhancing it with NLP. Every day, if you start to build somatic awareness. you will learn to calibrate to yourself and your own emotions and experiences. Of course, it helps that you are put into a fundamental state of positive states through meditation, and thereby train your brain to be more effective.
- Hold coaching conversations. Most NLP practitioners are not coaches, but you can most certainly accelerate your pathway to become a Licensed NLP Coach through my Certified Motivational Coach programme (there is no pre-requisite to attend, but to be certified as an NLP coach, you have to be a Master Practitioner). This way, you can practice the most fundamental conversations in NLP, which is to help empower people through your language, while practicing reframing too!
- Keep reading NLP! NLP does advance as time goes by. Nowadays, there are applications of NLP in almost every other field such as medicine, negotiation, sales, motivation, self-help, spiritual development and the like. Oh, and remember to get a copy of Richard Bandler’s new generation of books.
- Develop an attitude of curiosity… with other NLP Practitioners. Social learning rocks! Well, if you haven’t done so, you should join your fellow graduates in the Facebook group (ping me on Facebook to get access). When events are organized, jump in and commit to learn by experience. Don’t just give in to the inconvenience – heck, by organizing this, it can be an inconvenience when people simply raise their hands but do not show up. If you don’t commit to learning, nobody will! And remember – I’m not obliged to organize free revision sessions. I’m just doing this because I know you need some space to practice, and you should come prepared to practice, not to come for a revision lesson.
Reframing is the process by which you shift a person’s perspective of a word or phrase through the use of redefining the content, or shifting the context of the situation, thereby changing the meaning of the original word or phrase.
Reframing is a means to help adjust a belief through introduction of a new perspective. When a seemingly bad situation takes place (e.g. a fire breaks out at one’s manufacturing plant), it is possible to view this in such a way where this event can be deemed as positive or even helpful.
To do so, one must apply context thinking and meaning shifts. A context reframe is applied to a different context. A fire breaking out in a manufacturing plant is devastating. But if no lives were lost, that context could be deemed more valuable than the loss of materials.
Meaning shifts are typically applied to the meaning or semantics of words. So while a context reframe also shifts meaning, a meaning reframe attempts to work on the meaning of the word itself. A fire breaking out may mean losses. But it may also mean a renewed determination to strive for better safety and productivity.
In NLP we have four main perceptual positions.
First position: experiencing things through your own eyes and emotions.
Second position: experiencing things through someone else’s eyes and emotions.
Third position: observing the conversation, the effect of the converastion.
Meta position: observing your observations, their implications and impact.