NLP: Using Nested Loops

One of the most impressive things in NLP is the ability to transfer knowledge through the use of nested loops. The process is simple – you need three stories that you nest between them (as depicted in the diagram) in order to transmit information throughout the presentation.

There are several elements. The first thing is the ability to (1) segway, (2) stack on anchors, (3) close loops.

 

Segways. A segway is a “break” in the storyline. An effective segway usually creates what we call “premature closure”. It means that the story appears to be over, but actually isn’t. This is the way through to the next story.

Stack on anchors.

In a typical NLP Practitioner training, it is important to learn basic anchoring. Stacking anchors is the the way in which you can intensify emotions through the story. In the use of nested loops, anchoring is a process within the stories. Each story carries a peak state of experience that either stacks or chains.

Close Loops

The process of closing loops is simple – you continue with the previous story. This will only work if the story that you have told is emotionally impactful enough.

Practice.

The only way to continue to be good in nested loops is to practice it in multiple settings. As far as  can see, the most practical way to do this is to attend a good Master Practitioner training program, once you have the proper foundations settled. Remember, not all NLP training programs are equal because of the capabilities of the trainer!

NLP Training – Dealing With Shame

In the pursuit of goals, I have always reminded people to ensure that they set clear goals. However, when things go awry, it is our resilience that will help to keep us going. The unfortunate thing is that some people do not have that resilience for moving forward any more than some people can’t run a marathon.

A marathon is actually an apt analogy. Anyone can run a marathon, and we don’t care if we can’t make it. But when it matters, a lot of people tend to become attached to the goal. It’s almost like the emotion of guilt is manufactured once that goal is set.

The approach to NLP is a very humanistic one. In order to achieve your goals, you must first ensure that you adapt, be flexible and create changes inside of yourself in order to achieve your goals. At the same time, there is no part of the formal NLP literature that talks abut emotional handling of shame.

Here’s what I would suggest.

Look at the things that generated guilt and shame for you, and acknowledge that part of you that has brought this attention to you.

Then, follow this feeling to the core.

Once you are able to follow this feeling to the core, you will discover interesting things about the origins.

In most of our lives, busy as we are, it is essential to take the time to stop for a moment and pay attention to ourselves. In NLP, this is commonly known as self-calibration. Ultimately, when you are blinded by the external world, take some time to regain “in”sight.

Guilt is a powerful emotion because it reveals lessons you have to learn in order to become stronger and more powerful. The only reason why guilt/shame stands in the way is because of limiting beliefs that prevent you from getting past the fact that you failed. In reality, you took action. Action merely begets feedback.

Take the core feeling and acknowledge what it is saying to you. Once you listen clearly and honestly you will be better able to understand the reason for it’s existence and use it to move forward toward your destiny.

NLP Training: Why Personal Development

Most people make the mistake of thinking that NLP is about influence, when it really is a personal development instrument. Because of its value in personal development, a serious student of NLP in training has to consider three things in their journey to be trained in NLP.

#1 – What New Skill Should I Learn?

This is a fundamental question. All NLP Practitioners should know about basic modeling and understand the implications of modeling on any aspect of personal development such as learning, communicating, leadership and the like.

#2 – What New Beliefs Should I Adopt?

I remember after learning about NLP, I focused a lot of energy on the subject of learning, so that I could learn faster. Then I discovered I had a deficiency in terms of the kind of beliefs I had about leadership and public speaking. I set out to do more of that by changing my old, limiting beliefs about leadership and public speaking, hence allowing me to use NLP to expand my skill and expertise in that area.

#3 – What Results Will I Achieve?

This really is a question about your outcome. If you so choose, you should actually achieve anything you want. However, most people are unaware that many goals that are set according the “SMART” goals formula does not work in accordance to empirical evidence. It is important to utilize NLP as a means to be clear about and to achieve goals. Results, after all, are more important as proof of performance than just feeling good about something.

 

NLP Training: State Control

The most important skill, in my opinion, is state control. Personally, the word ‘control’ isn’t really the best word to use, because people are often already over-controlling their emotions.

What I have discovered is that people who ignore their feelings often end up compartmentalizing these emotions in a way that prevent integration. One of the ways in which these emotions actually end up coming back up over and over is that there hasn’t been any resolution to it. History, it seems, has a knack of repeating itself.

Hasn’t there been a time where emotions tend to wreak havoc for you? What emotion was that? If you use that emotion to revisit its source, you will probably find a few things. Firstly, there may be memory fragments. You might not be able to see the memory chronologically. This often means that the memory has not been fully integrated and explored.

Secondly, if you revisit the emotion at its source, you will find that they are childhood sources. For instance, a ruined relationship may connect with a childhood memory of someone whom you were attached to, leaving your life. Many of these require exploration and investigation, especially since the goal of integration is an important one as you progress in life.

State control, therefore, is a process of looking at your states and getting yourself in a position where you can really see yourself. Many of the states that used to bother you will at least be within your awareness, and possibly, become integrated in a manner that helps you to reach clarity and happiness.

Learn NLP Techniques: Utilizing The Swish Pattern

I recently reviewed several practitioners’ use of the Swish Pattern and realized that many have gotten their concepts wrong.

Problem Illustration #1: I want to quit smoking… how do I use the Swish Pattern? 

In this case, it is possible to do one of the following.

(1) Make a list of all the Trigger Images that link to smoking and handle them one by one, Swishing to alternative behaviors. This is sometimes viewed as too tedious by most practitioners to do, but I would recommend it highly because it creates fairly stable new behaviors if done properly.

(2) Leverage off Values in order to collapse the need for smoking. This is the sensational one where people watch videos of people crying and being emotional. Be careful – this can work, but often needs some clinical judgment. Don’t just do it because you see a sensational approach on YouTube, then blast your way to do the same thing. People are different, and techniques don’t work exactly the same way all the time for the different people.

 

Problem Illustration #2: I hate my job, and I want to use the Swish Pattern to be happy with my work. Why doesn’t it work?

Erm… maybe because you already dislike your work. The trouble here is that the Swish pattern is for creating a new habit through a new state. The problem is not at the level of your habits, if you hate your work. The problem is your beliefs. In this case, you may need to do one of a few things. (1) Swish the belief instead of the habit. In other words, build an amplified belief that what you do it worthwhile, or that what you do is meaningful. To do this, you need to understand how to utilize mapping across techniques to shift your old belief into an absolute belief. If I get a chance to demonstrate this on video, I will (soon). (2) Use a Logical Level Alignment process to find congruence in what you presently are doing.

I hope this will continue to help more practitioners find their grounding. Please note that it is important to understand the key principles of NLP so that you can become a better practitioner, not just to learn something in an exam format only. If you are an NLP Practitioner who has found that your technique don’t seem to work, I can explain why. It’s likely you are applying it incorrectly, and may need input as to how to improve your abilities.

Contact me if you have issues. If you are NOT certified by the Society Of NLP, you SHOULD BE! Contact me for a conversion program so you can learn NLP techniques in a clear practice environment.