NLP techniques: Propulsion Systems

A propulsion system is a subsystem that enables the larger system to reach where it needs to go. A rocket, for instance, is a combination of many subsystems that have one mission: to propel itself toward a specific destination. I’ve talked about that in my post about success and prosperity as well as made mention of propulsion systems in my other post about NLP and the Fear of Public Speaking.

Bisecting the Moonrise
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In humans, propulsion systems exist in a few areas of our mental model including our beliefs, our emotions and our values. However, unlike mechanical propulsion systems, we don’t always know our subsystems very well because we spend lots of time studying things and not ourselves.

In any case, this means that we may install or model or learn counter productive subsystems. For instance, a person may be driven by success and the sense of achievement, but held back by a conflicting fear of rejection. This therefore prevents people from reaching the goals that they initially set for themselves. Likewise, a highly driven person would be able to align their values and capitalize on them. Someone who values achievement (towards value) and at the same time is fearful of being ridiculed for having little achievement (away-from value) will most likely have their values system aligned clearly toward what they want to achieve.

Some people need to discover more about their own values system in order to discover what they are naturally driven toward, and I’ve helped a number of people gain greater clarity in their life by simply coaching them through difficult moments, and helping them realize what place those difficult moments have in their lives.

There’s no such thing as a good or bad experience, only one that helps us understand ourselves and our direction in life better.

Learn NLP: Emotion Management Technique

A lot of people tell me that in the spur of the moment they aren’t able to deal with emotions that are overwhelming. I thought about it and figured that I’d been in that position myself several times but managed to cope.

There are two ways to do this, but the easiest way is to utilize a verbal trigger to get you into a dissociated mode, something like a personal code. A phrase like “What’s going on” can help. This forces you to get some awareness. If another person responds to you in a negative way, saying “where is this person coming from” or “what is this person’s highest positive intent” can also dissociate you from just purely reacting and assuming negative things about your interactions.

This, however, requires you to assume that people have a positive intent behind any behavior. This is a basic presumption that to hold in order to make this works.

Emotional Management Technique

Step 1: Use your internal verbal trigger.

Step 2: See yourself floating out of your body and above the situation like a “helicopter view”.

Step 3: Ask for the highest possible purpose or intention for this situation or event. Step into the shoes of that person and go out into the future considering what outcome they want, or what possible good can come out of the situation.

Step 4: Consider new possible responses in light of the positive intention and re-associate into your body.