Anthony Yeo: Orbituary: Singapore's Father of Counseling

This is a tribute to Singapore’s Father of Counseling. He had trained me in counseling when I was at the Temasek Polytechnic Specialist Diploma in Counseling and Guidance program in 2000.

According to reports, he was diagnosed with Burkitt’s lymphoma in May, and passed last Saturday. He was 60.

Anthony was inspiring in a subtle manner, and somehow had the ability to bring out the best in the counselors he taught. Novel, creative and yet, passionately caring of people, he will be remembered, especially by the thousands of people whom he has helped. May all counselors aspire to be as amazing in the consistency and impact he made in the world.

Full report:

NLP Singapore: Making Singapore an NLP Hub

I’m surprised – in my organization alone, I have at least 8 people who are licensed trainers of NLP, but it seems I’m the most active developing NLP. This, however, is a good sign. I’ve always been wondering what NLP Practitioners have been doing with their skills. Since I began certifying good NLP Practitioners, they have gone out to set up their own coaching practice, with good effect.

I believe that in order for someone to be a good NLP practitioner, they must move away from being theoretical to being practical. A lot of the people in Singapore, in particular, want to see a practical use for NLP rather than learning a bunch of “interesting things”.

As a practical measure, NLP should be studied to improve the quality of applications out there in the world. For instance, one could apply NLP in the area of leadership, but no one with the right measure of experience in NLP and leadership has been able to come up with effective models of leadership until now.

(yeah, I’ll reveal some of it for your personal benefit in due time, but I can’t do too much because it’s in development)

There are many other applications especially in the areas that require human communication.

So, if you have a passion for people and helping others, you might well want to develop your NLP skills to create a higher level of skill for that specific purpose.

Learn NLP: Developing Confidence MP3

Oops – I think this is a little bit late because I must have mixed up the postdating on my blog.

In any case, confidence building is an important skill for oneself, and I definitely recommend that you learn how to do this. Essentially, confidence is a skill, so you should have the ability to master it once you understand how to manage your own emotions.

Learn NLP: The difference between NLP and Hypnosis

If anyone has asked about the differences between NLP and Hypnosis, it’s probably because they are confused by the two fields of study. I was reading a question of Yahoo Answers and found an odd question: Are some people more ‘susceptible’ to NLP than others.

Gee. Am I susceptible to geography? or mathematics? Maybe quantum physics!

I’ll offer something to get some clarity.

Here’s a more or less official definition of hypnosis.

Hypnosis is a mental state (state theory) or set of attitudes (nonstate theory) usually induced by a procedure known as a hypnotic induction, which is commonly composed of a series of preliminary instructions and suggestions. Hypnotic suggestions may be delivered by a hypnotist in the presence of the subject (“hetero-suggestion”), or may be self-administered (“self-suggestion” or “autosuggestion”). The use of hypnotism for therapeutic purposes is referred to as “hypnotherapy“.

The words ‘hypnosis’ and ‘hypnotism’ both derive from the term “neuro-hypnotism” (nervous sleep) coined by the Scottish physician and surgeon James Braid around 1841 to distinguish his theory and practice from those developed by Franz Anton Mesmer and his followers (“Mesmerism” or “animal magnetism“).

Although a popular misconception is that hypnosis is a form of unconsciousness resembling sleep, contemporary research suggests that it is actually a wakeful state of focused attention[1] and heightened suggestibility,[2] with diminished peripheral awareness.[3] In the first book on the subject, Neurypnology (1843), Braid described “hypnotism” as a state of physical relaxation (“nervous sleep”) accompanied and induced by mental concentration (“abstraction”).[4]

Okay, so we know what hypnosis is. Some may even go so far as to say that hypnosis exists even without us realizing it. Is watching TV a “wakeful state of focused attention and heightened suggestibility”? Gee… maybe that’s why TV commercials that work, work well!

How does it vary from NLP? It’s very important to note that NLP focuses a lot on linguistic elements that influence neurological processes. In other words, to study anything in human communication that actually influences other people’s behaviors and actions would constitute part of NLP. The formal definition of NLP is, of course, the study of human excellence, more commonly known as “modeling”.

In this sense, NLP is actually more of a meta tool rather than an application. After all, hypnosis, among other forms of psychotherapy, has its research and foundations in working with people for the specific purpose of reaching a therapeutic goal. NLP is not necessarily about therapy.

NLP can still be applied across contexts – business applications, leadership, persuasion, innovation, team building, health… and the reason why they span such a broad spectrum is simply because NLP is the tool that enables an individual to study the fields in question.

Think of NLP like a magnifying glass, and hypnosis (or any other fields of study) like a thick chunk of tiny text that needs to be deciphered.

Some parts of formal NLP training have involved specific models (such as rapport building and strategies) that have been adopted from various fields (such as communication and information processing/systems theory respectively), and because they are useful, they end up being pretty much permanent fixtures in NLP. However, the process of modeling in NLP is a sequence of questions that leads to an unfolding of a pre-existing model that currently exists.