It’s surprised me to no end that there are people who don’t really teach the NLP techniques properly. For example, in the process of habit creation, it’s extremely important for someone to develop the right concept and capabilities or else their habits won’t get formed in the right manner. It seems that some trainres are using a very formulaic method to teach people, rather than teaching the best way to create the changes for that specific individual.
You can use techniques; at the same time you need to realize that techniques do not define a human being.
Let’s take one habit creation strategy known as The Swish Pattern and discuss this. Common mistakes made by people when using the Swish Pattern include a lack of understanding submodality patterns and driver submodalities.
In the Swish Pattern, you basically want to think about creating a cause-effect behavior pattern.
Think about what you want to do (as opposed to what you don’t want to do). You want to be in a position where this has happened for you. Now for a moment, ask yourself what it would take for you to reach there. What emotional states will help you be resourceful to get here?
So, we have a set of resources that lead to the behaviors that create those results.
Now it’s time to build the habit. Ask yourself waht you want to trigger off this emotion. Do you want to look at something and this emotion fires off?
For example, people who are constantly in a state of lethargy don’t realize they associate certain situations with that lack of energy. If you walk into a room, and you actually want to feel great doing stuff in that room, you must use that image of the room and all its surrounding visual stimuli to trigger off the emotion (say, motivation) you want.
So, now you have something called the trigger image, and the ‘desired’ image.
Using the drivers you learn from NLP, take your trigger image and transition it as rapidly as you can to the ‘desired’ image. Your transition could be distance (i.e. trigger image moves out away from you into the distance followed by the ‘desired’ image moving toward you). You can use brightness as a transition. Use your trigger image, brighten it until it turns into complete white-out, then when it dims back to normal brightness, it reveals the ‘desired’ image.
You must remember to do this several times. The faster you do it, the more associations you make to it. Also, you will get an ‘impact’ when you do it the first few times. However, after those times, you might feel like you’ve lost the impact. That’s normal. You’re supposed to feel that way – because when you look at the desired image, it usually feels as if you already have it. After you’ve rehearsed this several times to the point of “taking it for granted it will happen for you”, you can do a future pace.
When you future pace, you go into the future and see what the trigger does for you. Does the trigger bring out that emotional state and desired image again? If not, why? Could it be that there is a benefit for remaining the same (secondary gain)? Or else, could it be you didn’t make your resources effective enough?
Go back and review your process until it works… or, seriously, get a professional NLP coach to guide you in the process. 🙂 It’s not that tough to do, and you might find it easier when you have a ground foundation of NLP.