NLP Definitions: NLP Meta Model

The meta model was created as a result of studying questions asked in therapy, and figuring out why some questions were more effective than others.

As it seems, the Meta Model is not really just a model utilizing questions. They are literally questions that are focused on getting a meta view of a model – something that is worth learning about.

In our mental models, we have a number of filters. They include our beliefs, memories, language, meta programs, values structure, etc.

Language, as it seems, has a deep structure and surface structure. When I say “I throw the ball into the hoop”, we are not so interested in the action as in the sequence of mental patterns that lead to the ball going into the hoop.

As such, we need to figure out the person’s belief patterns, values system, representational system and sequence (e.g. I see the ball going into the hoop and allow the ball to be lifted on one hand and released in a slow, backward rotating fashion on my third finger). Even that explanation has a lot of deletions and missing information that will be crucial to effective modeling.

Some of the questions you will ask are to identify distortion, generalization and deletion patterns.

Distortions
R. They are evil people because they torture animals.
Q. How does torturing animals mean they are evil people?

Generalizations
R. All men are scum
Q. Has there been a man who has not been scum?

Deletion
R. Nobody listens to me.
Q. Who hasn’t been listening to you?

It’s the nature of the questions that determine the effectiveness of your modeling process. If you decide to model the problem, you will gain insight into the way they structured the problem. If you decide to model excellence, you will find potential solutions. I recommend finding out what is appropriate.

NLP Techniques: Mastering NLP

I get rather fed up people thinking that NLP is about motivation and success and stuff. If you want to learn about that, you can go to Anthony Robbins and The Law Of Attraction stuff.

If you want to learn real NLP stuff, you gotta learn from the guys who are the most creative in developing new NLP models like Bandler, La Valle, Dilts, Grinder, Steve and Connierae Andreas among others.

If you have jumped to conclusions about what NLP is without even having learn anything in detail about NLP, please get it in your mental dictionary that NLP is none of those things.

I keep emphasizing that NLP is about modeling. Anthony Robbins modeled the process of motivation, creating his own application called neuro-associative conditioning. Even the founders utilized the core of NLP to create therapeutic techniques. Persuasion is NOT NLP. It’s just an application.

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Calling NLP persuasion is like calling a piano R&B. It just doesn’t make sense. One is the instrument. The other is the genre. It’s like calling a brick a house. One is the building block, the other is the structure, based on a blueprint.

Personally, I believe that NLP is the essential DNA for studying human behavior. You can study human mediocrity, or you can study human excellence. Sometimes, you may have to do both.

NLP has a nice framework of understanding people’s behaviors. It has a theory to understanding how human beings communicate and think. I believe that communication is a representation of thought, and being able to understand communication opens up the understanding of thought processes.

Once I can gain access to thought processes, I can learn then, repeat them, discover new possible pathways, and then teach those processes to people who can help me to reach my goals.

Representational Systems

We first understand that structures within the human system include the way we represent information. If I can find someone who is, say, great at persuading, I can find out how they do it.

It will follow a process that begins with an element in the surrounding environment that triggers off a sequence of thought patterns, emotional reactions and actual behaviors. We call those the operations.

Questions

But it’s the kinds of questions you ask that lead you to the direction you need. Most people start off with the wrong question (usually – “how the heck did you do that”). Instead, you should be asking about how that strategy works. You don’t open up a watch and ask “how the heck does it do that”. You find out the mechanism and structure that corresponds with a certain result that it achieves.

Likewise, look at people and figure out patterns and processes. Most people who do not have the right questions or understanding of representational processes will not be able to this fast enough.

The questions come from the core model of NLP known as the Meta Model. It has evolved quite a fair bit since it first was developed, but the core principle is about understanding the deep structure of human experience.

My advice is to look at models. Consider who could be your role models. No they don’t have to be perfect, but must have some kind of skill or result you want to develop in yourself. Learn the Meta Model and the strategy modeling process.

Learn NLP – To Give 100% Or To Hold Back?

One thing in NLP is that the focus on the attitude of success is hardly mentioned. People keep focusing on the techniques and the method, and I think that’s a little passe.

One principle I share in the success process is about giving 100%.

A number of people have asked me about giving 100% and what that really means. While this is not strictly an NLP strategy, I think the attitude of being at your 100% is very important. Personally, I find that it is a very useful concept. But, is it possible to give 100% all the time?

Hm.

When you set your goals, do you think that it is an important thing to put in 100% to achieve your goals?

Even if you have the best skills and techniques, you may not necessarily achieve your goals simply because you did not put in your best. If you want something, you may want to put limitations aside.

Of course, if you are in an environment, you may also find that you are restricted by culture, the way people do things. When you are in conflict as to whether you should put in your best, you have to ask yourself the question: what will be beneficial overall?

Have you realized that some of the top performers actually defy the norms in order to push themselves to the highest possible level of performance? Perhaps, holding back is not really an option anymore!

Consider, though, that it’s no longer about what you do, but rather how you communicate your intent. It’s probably the best, therefore, if you wish to get yourself to stretch or even get other people to stretch, that your intent is clearly communicated so that you and the stakeholders of your decisions are clear about your intent first.